Habits are an important part of our life. They play a significant role in who we are and how we go through life. Just like anything in life has opposites, the same way there are bad habits and good habits. We all have some bad habits. Some are worse than others. If you want to improve your life, live a healthier and happier life, there are some bad habits you really need to quit doing.
A bad or toxic habit is something you are used to doing that has a negative impact on your life. It can be on your physical and mental health or on other aspects such as relationships. However, the longer you keep doing it, the more it seems to be a normal part of your life. Quitting a bad habit might seem hard or even impossible, but if there’s a will, there is a way. If you really want to break a bad habit, you’ll need to be patient with yourself and have a strong will to keep working on it.
Here is a list of bad habits you need to break ASAP
Comparing your life to others
Comparing your life to others has a way of stealing your joy and confidence. Many of us have been compared to others from a young age “be more like her” or “why can’t you do things more like him”.
Comparing can raise doubt about yourself and can often make you unhappy about your life. But the thing is, when you compare your life to others, you usually compare your life to only what you see. It’s only that what’s on the surface.
Instead, be proud of who you are and what you’re are doing. Focus on improving your life and doing better for yourself because you want that for yourself, not because others expect it from you.
Focusing more on your failures than success
When is the last time you sat down and just reflected on all the things you’ve achieved so far? A lot of the time, we sit down and stress about the things that go wrong. We forget that life consists of both ups and downs, and it’s up to us what we’re going to focus on.
So instead of thinking about all the things that go wrong or all the goals we haven’t achieved so far, try celebrating the little successes in life. Think about all the things that have been going well and all the improvements you’ve made so far. Life is not a sprint. It’s a marathon.
Talking negatively to and about yourself (even if it’s as a joke)
Words have power, and what you say about yourself or how you think of yourself will have a significant impact on your life. Your subconscious believes what you speak over yourself. If you keep bath mouthing yourself, even as a joke, you’re subconsciously telling yourself that you’re not good enough or whatever bad thing you say about yourself.
Not only that, you are giving people around you permission to talk about you in that way. You will decide how people treat you by what you allow them to do or say to you and how you talk and see yourself.
So instead of having this bad habit, talk highly about yourself. Speak loving and positive about yourself. The more you speak about the great things you are or want to achieve, the more you’ll live up to it.
Having unrealistic goals
Goals are a big part of our life. They determine how we plan our life and the decisions we make. Goals help us to be driven and give us something to look forward to and to work towards. However, setting unrealistic goals for yourself is one of the bad habits that can negatively impact our lives.
Yes, it’s essential to think outside the box or set expectations that push you to grow, but these expectations should not be bad for your health. Setting goals that expect too much from you can break you and make you think you are not good enough when maybe you just expect too much from yourself. Instead, give yourself time to grow. Take it one step at a time.
If you realize a goal is not achievable in the time you set, learn from it, adjust it and see what other small goals you first need to achieve if you want to achieve the bigger goal.
Bottling up your feelings
We live in a society where people make it seem that being though, not letting people in on how you feel, is a good thing. But this is another bad habit that can make your life less enjoyable. Talking about or expressing your feelings can help you feel better or even help you understand your emotions better. It can also help to dissolve miscommunications.
If something doesn’t sit right with you, say it, let people know that something they said or did has bothered you. It can help you feel lighter, sleep better, and just enjoy life more. It also allows people who care to know what not to do or say to you or understand you better. Finally, expressing your feelings can prevent you from exploding on just a random day about something that probably wasn’t a big deal.
You can also express your feelings in the form of writing or drawing if you’re not ready to tell other people about your feelings. Here is a free printable journal you can use.
Holding on to grudges
Another bad habit I’ve seen been glorified recently is holding grudges. As if it is such a good thing to do to stay mad at people and hold unto grudges. I think this is one of the bad habits I find a little bit childish.
Instead of holding grudges, talk it out, be open and try to let go. No, it’s not always easily done as said, but you need to at least try and make clear where you stand. Sometimes the better choice is to even let go of the person if it’s someone with no good intentions. But if it’s someone close to you, someone you care for, and someone who cares about you, the mature thing to do is work it out instead of keeping your feelings to yourself and staying mad.
Trying to please people all the time
I like the saying: “you can’t please everyone, you’re not ice cream, and not even ice cream can please everyone.” You are not put on this earth for everyone to like you. So stop trying to make everybody happy and please everybody because it will definitely take a toll on you.
Instead, see what you can do to help others, without it being something that makes you feel bad or something that just doesn’t sit right with you.
Not taking care of yourself
In addition to the previous point, stop taking care of everyone else but yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup. And this goes for both your physical health and mental health.
If pleasing your boss or getting that promotion means not resting enough or taking your break, it’s not worth it. If talking to that one family member or friend, just to be nice, means feeling bad about yourself, it’s not worth it.
Make sure you eat well, rest enough, take breaks, take care of your mental health if you want to live a good life. If you don’t do that, I’m sure life will be harder to enjoy.
And that’s a wrap. 8 bad habits you need to break to live a better and happier life. However, do keep in mind that breaking a habit takes time. So if you fall back into old bad habits, so now and then, don’t beat yourself up about it, but keep working on it and keep trying. In this blog, you can find 8 helpful tips about how to break a bad habit.
If you’re interested in reading about good habits to improve your life, go ahead and read this blog.
Here is a free planner you can use to help you get rid of bad habits.
If there are other bad habits you’d like to share with me, feel free to leave them in the comments. I’d love to read them!