Self-confidence, in my opinion, is one most important things we need in life for personal growth. Not all of us are gifted with a buttload of them, but luckily, they are things we can improve and build.
If you are reading this, I’m guessing you want to grow your self-confidence too. I’m so happy you clicked to read this blog because the first step to improving something is realizing that it needs to be improved, so yay! You took your first step into building better self-confidence.
Building more self-confidence has been something I’ve been working on for a long time and still am working on. These things have helped and still help me, and that’s why I love to share them with you.
I do want to mention that you should realize that becoming more confident is not something that happens overnight, it takes time. It also won’t happen after you read a book or follow a session on building your confidence, it needs practicing. You need to keep working on it and keep growing.
Why should you build your self-confidence?
Being more confident and believing in yourself can help you to be happier, succeed in life, and enjoy life more. It will give you the strength to try out more, to take important steps in life, and to dare to live a life you want to live. It can help you to believe in yourself and in what you are capable of.
1. Speak positively about yourself
Self-confidence begins with how you look at yourself and how you talk about yourself. If you frequently put yourself down and talk negatively about yourself, you’ll actually live up to that. You are manifesting negativity about your life.
So instead, start saying positive things about yourself and being nice to you. If you make a mistake tell yourself that it’s okay to make a mistake and that you’ll learn from it and move on. Don’t torture yourself about it.
Practice saying or writing positive affirmations about yourself regularly. By repeating positive affirmations, you can train your brain into believing them, and by believing it you can unconsciously start working towards them and finally make them a fact.
2. Talkback to your inner-critique
We all have an inner critique, and in some of us, it speaks louder than in others. Having an inner critique is not wrong, but giving it the upper hand might be. Your inner critique can simply tell you if you did something wrong, and you should learn from your mistakes.
But make sure that you don’t listen to your inner critique when it tells you that you are wrong all the time and sometimes even before you try it. Talk back and tell yourself that you’ll never learn if you don’t try. Tell yourself that you won’t know if it’s wrong if don’t even try. And try to tell your inner critique that it’s wrong and that you are capable of the things it tells you, you are not.
3. Get to know yourself
Knowing who you are can help you to be true to yourself. Being aware of who you are can help you to be that person in confidence. You can love yourself more, and by loving yourself more, you can be a more confident person.
Knowing yourself also means knowing your strengths and weaknesses. By this, you can know what you have to offer and do that more confidently. But it can also help you to know what aspects you need to improve to become better at them. Not because you are not good enough, but because you are confident that you can improve that.
Here are 53 questions to help you to get to know yourself better.
4. Celebrate the small wins
Allow yourself to celebrate and enjoy the small victories in life. Don’t wait for the result of that huge life-changing win, but start celebrating your small wins. Compliment yourself if you did something different or learned something new.
Celebrate the small things you never thought you would be able to do. Compliment yourself if you took the first baby step to reach something big. Instead of only focusing on the things that go wrong along the way or in life.
Acknowledging the things, you achieve no matter how small can boost your self-confidence and help you to believe more in yourself and in what you can do.
5. Except that you are not perfect
Being confident doesn’t mean that you are perfect or believe that you are. Instead, it is that you know that you are imperfect, that you won’t be able to do everything just as good as other people, but that you are okay with it. You know what your strengths are and you try to improve your imperfections where and if possible.
You are confident enough that you are amazing, even though you are imperfect. Instead of striving for perfection, which can only harm your confidence since no one ever will be perfect, except that you’ll make mistakes and learn from them.
Be open to learning. Allow yourself to be educated and grow in the most positive way possible.
You are imperfectly perfect in your own way.
6. Surround yourself with positive and uplifting people
If you have trained yourself not to put yourself down and not to speak negatively about yourself. You also need to stop accepting those words from others about you.
So, surround yourself with people who want the best for you and help you to become better. People who will help you to lift your spirit and help you to believe in yourself. People who believe in you and see the greatness in you.
Surround yourself with people who, when they give you feedback or criticism, that it is intending to help you grow and improve instead of to put you down or breaking your spirit. People who give criticism with the right intentions.
And sometimes we can’t completely stay away from the negative people because of their position in our life, in that case, know when to discharge their words. Know what you’re worth and don’t believe everything people say about you. Try to identify what type of criticism you are receiving. These tips can help you.
7. Love yourself
You can’t build self-confidence if you don’t love yourself. Self-love is very essential if you want to be more confident. If you love yourself more you will believe more in yourself to be more confident of the person you are and can be.
Loving yourself will help you with the previous points I mentioned such, as speaking positively about yourself, excepting your imperfections, and surrounding yourself with uplifting people out of love for yourself.
8. Believe in yourself
Believe in yourself and in all that you can achieve. Believe that you are capable of doing great things.
Believe that you are capable of growth and being the person you are meant to be.
9. Speak up
Dare to speak up and let your voice be heard. Stop telling yourself that your voice doesn’t matter, but give your opinion. Allowing yourself to speak up can help you to improve your skill in communicating. Letting your voice be heard and engaging in conversations can also help you to explore your strengths and can help you to be more confident about yourself.
But also speak up for yourself when people are being disrespectful to you. Love yourself enough to speak up when there is injustice done towards you or someone else.
And that was it for these 9 things you can do to build up your self-confidence. I hope these tips were helpful and that they can help you to become more confident about yourself.
Don’t forget that you are amazing and one of a kind. You have a lot to offer this world, and don’t let insecurities keep your gifts away from this world.
I also recommend you use the calm app on your journey to build your self-confidence.
If you have any other tips that you find helpful in building self-confidence please let me know in the comments!